Where are OUR children at?

The headline reads:


So one of the #HotTopics right now is the number of missing children here in the city and the manner in which they are being reported and investigated by DC Police or not.

Meanwhile both parents (mostly single mothers) and children are worried about their own safety and how this has altered life.

Now I am a parent of 4 and even though my children are all over the age of 18 I still worry about them or shall I say I am always concerned about them. But, what good parent wouldn’t be? Especially when the life dynamic has drastically changed since I was their age.

I mean children today are being thrown into adult situations and positions without any warning. Below are some statistics found on “Singlemotherguide.com” (I will add link at bottom of post):

  • About 4 out 10 children were born to unwed mothers.1 Nearly two-thirds are born to mothers under the age of 30.2
  • Of all single-parent families in the U.S., single mothers make up the majority.
  • According to U.S. Census Bureau,3 out of about 12 million single parent families in 2016, more than 80% were headed by single mothers.
  • Today 1 in 4 children under the age of 18 — a total of about 17.2 million — are being raised without a father4 and almost half 40% live below the poverty line.5
  • For those living with father only, about 21% live in poverty. In contrast, among children living with both parents, only 11% are counted as poor.

Now these statistics may have changed since they were posted but, I feel this needs to be looked into as a potential source for such a high number of missing children. Let the Relisha Rudd case remind us of the many issues with single parenting. This young princess lived in a shelter with her mother and based on the story and many statistics they were in the poor category. And being unable to find or be gamefully employed can bring along many issues especially when it comes to raising a child.

I thank GOD everyday that the children’s mother & I were able to remain together (flaws, problems, and all) long enough to see our children graduate out of high school and at least leave the nest before we separated. I also thank GOD that we remained focused and made sure we were both active in their lives.

It is not an easy task especially when the adult is not ready mentally or even financially to take on the responsibility of being a parent. And often times we (as parents) get caught up in the “What the HELL am I gonna do” and don’t think about how it can and will effect that child. Because it will and does. And in the case of so many missing children, just as much as we SHOULD question how the police are handling this matter we must also look at the home dynamic (whether it be the biological or foster home).

It’s no secret that our Government doesn’t see the many challenges people face in everyday life and when called upon the sense of urgency is not there. And even after a tragic outcome they still do not want to take ownership of what is actually their fault. But, more than that we adults need to be more accountable for the actions we take when the situation becomes so overwhelming that we stop caring or create a situation where the child runs away.

This is a very serious matter and instead of passing the buck, everyone needs to own up the their contribution for the matter being this way. The homes, communities, legal system, and Government have all made this happen and until we get pass all the fingerpointing these children will continue to be missing and GOD forbid more will.


  1. Missing Children Article (Written by: Marina Marraco)
  2. Single Mother Statistics (Written by: Dawn)
  3. Relisha Rudd Article (Credit: Washington Post)

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